Should you or should you not ask relationship advice from your friends?

Would you consider asking for guidance from outside people about your relationship? For outside people in a relationship, i mean your friends, family or his or her friends. Let me tell you what i think.

This might or might not be the best move to try. For one, your family and friends would be biased, not because they do not like your significant other but because they just do not want to see you hurting. So asking them to help you out with issues related with your better half, their views would be from protective aspect which is totally understandable.

You should understand also, that these people will definitely be out to help regardless of them not knowing your fiancee or your boyfriend better. They will always give you an ear, a shoulder to clear your mind. Besides, youre family to them.

Being a girl in the African setup , we’re brought up with the notion that we stick to our partners and learn to be strong whenever things get tough.

I mean you can’t go back to your parents house after wrangles with your partner like you don’t have an African dad or mom.

So this relationship advice issue may have started with our ancestors. It does not look like its a modern idea its just that its so much needed now than it was then.

Let’s work it out, how many of friends think their other friends ruined their relationship? Khloe Kardashian thinks Kris Jenner was the main force behind her and Lamars divorce. Out of the love of a mother to her beautiful angel, she thinks you should go to her house for things to get better.

Yes they really try to help, by being protective. Parents have always assumed the worst or have you never told your mom you feel nauseated and now she thinks you’re expectant. Its just the same brains that will never overlook what you’re going through in your relationship.

Most of the times we judged our friends for sticking with their partners even in the worst situations, we were fast to tell them why they had to leave that guy because you think it was too early.

Love is not a universal feeling, not every one is in love, whoever you’re in love with is different from the person you’ve been with before. We love differently.

You may think venting to your mom, confiding in your friends is the best/worst thing to do. Here’s what I feel, asking different people on what you need guidance in may not be the best idea.

First you may be unable to disclose some of the intimate things that are the chances of your relationship problems. The person you’re confiding to will give you appropriate advice to the situation you created.

Two, all your friends will give you different thoughts and options on what to do which are not your thoughts. Oh yes this makes your problems uglier than they looked before.

Three is that it might be your family but they know the bare minimum of what you and your better half are going through. Basically what will happen here is that they will give you advice basing on situations they’ve been through or what they want.

However, revealing what your relationship struggles are in the most honest way may save you in the long run. Why? Because confiding in your mom would easen your heavy heart.

Also, for you and your partner finding a common person would even work better because you’re both comfortable in a case where you trust the person involved. You might want to consider a therapist in the most extreme cases. Just according to how intense you feel your situation is.

One thing is for sure is that youre the only one who feels the raw gritty feelings that your partner is giving you. They’re the ultimate people who can give us the answers we need.

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Learn to be okay with people not knowing your story.

“Im telling you this is what happened ”

This is just one of those few phrases i know people use when they want to proof themselves even in coaxed stories . Sometimes when people tell us about their stories you wouldn’t believe them because you’re already choosing what to believe and what or who to side with.

So, never mind with when that happens to you. We’re not going to get into which gender that is going to gossip or spread the rumors. This said men’s gossip has turned out to be the juicier one and we’re choosing that.

In this world where people will be pointing out the fake friends that you’ve had. That you wish you’d have looked more into the red flags than actually believing what the person is showing you already.

We all have this right mind of ours that doesn’t give consent to what our hearts tells us. I mean do you imagine dumping your child bestie because of a lie that he or she told about you? You’d rather talk about it and ask for the bestie hug at the end of it. Sometimes we even cry to give the innocence box a tick.

Have you ever gotten to work only for you to here that you’ve been hooking up with your boss for a favor or huh for weeks you’ve been flirting with your project assessor or talking of a co employee reporting you for underperforming. I’m talking of a case where all these are as a result of an issue between you and the character involved.

Sometimes these cases are worse because you end up getting fired, the situation unfolding before your lecturer and now he thinks he can make you defer the semester.

These are worst of the worse things that happen to people not because they’re underperforming, not because they’ve the looks and they can actually flirt. But because no one decides to listen to their stories.

You may be revealing all that happened, but because this boss, your friends have already chosen a side to conquer with. Be it against you or the other person involved.

When we watch different shows, it’s just so hard for a lyer to get away with it. We can say its a show as much as we want but do not overlook the fact that they’re laying it out there that karma never slays when its your time to pay.

You get so tired proving yourself, trying so much to please the people who are supposed to believe you. It doesn’t matter how low youre going to bend for people who are to believe you to have your please at heart.

All I’m saying is just never bend so low where youre unwanted. Its uncalled for. They’re crucial cases like your job or your semester marks are involved. Such cases may feel like the end of the road

You can fight for yourself, you may never know what to do but just don’t be afraid to let people not know your side of the story. God knows us he knows what you’re going through and he’ll definitely lift you from where you are.

Must you practise journalism to be a journalist?

Not everyone who’s a journalist today practiced the course in college. Chances are your parents told you you’d never be a journalist without joining school of communications. The same happened with lawyers, you must practice law to be a lawyer.

Question is must you practise a course that leadeth to your dream career? Looking at Kenya today, so many modern careers are overtaking traditional ones. The more this gets to grow, more employers out here are giving more accreditation to talent, what you’re best in and not what you practiced.

Talking of journalism, comedians are the most celebrated people in the media, upcoming content creators are getting into the journalism world without the second thought if they have a journalism background . These are people who never hustled to get into media companies for their internships, people who don’t understand the pressure of a screen test for you to get an A in that television production unit.

Do you remember reporting to Law school? Anticipating to be the judge in a moot Court? Dreaming to be the best criminal lawyer in the next 5 to 6 years?

Mark you that is how the journalism student at her internship who’s spending an extra 6pm to 7pm just to get advanced skills into live reporting.

Thinking that spending that extra time would sooner or later be a chance for his or her employer to send him or her to a live press conference.

This is only for the employer to look into the content creators on Instagram or YouTube to give him the job. For it to get sadder, is that the same people will undergo training that a journalism student has gone through. Most of this time is because they’re under a tag of a celebrity.

Just a week ago, more than 100 experienced media personnel were among the collective layoff of the famous mediamax company. Years before, we’ve had the same happening to Royal media services firing the talented Kirigo Ngarua and TerryAnn Chebet. We’re never going to speak the emotional trauma that these will be going through. Having to know that you’re not going to receive any paycheque at the end of the month, that you have to fire two of your nannies, that you’ll have to move into a smaller house with your baby, you’re considering all the options of cost cutting .

In journalism, we’re taught that you don’t go into the field to make yourself popular, its the quality of information that accredits your competency.

If you look at the most famous radio radio stations. Their accreditation is considered competent when you employ a celebrity. It doesnt matter whether the person practiced journalism or not.

Its news when Foi Wambui is a tv presenter when she studied law, Mike Mondo is a radio presenter while he’s a nurse by profession. I’m not saying its a bad situation for someone to find a living in a career that he’s not trained in. But imagine someone finding purpose in a career you practiced while you yourself haven’t figured out anything. I’m not making it sad but you’re competent.

We’re told its hard to get into the media industry. We’re told you have to start from somewhere even if it means being the coffee guy as you get video production aspects while you’re at the edge of the chair because you’re sharing it with your fellow journalists whore on pay cheque already.

On internship, you’re told to go with a radio presenter into the production room only for you to watch him or her voice his script and edit. That’s like an hour or more.. Do you imagine standing there for an hour not being even able to ask questions because he or she is under pressure to produce a program on a deadline.

Thing is, this is emotional inflicting than telling us to be positive to get into the media world.

Lessons I learnt in 2018

So I’ve been thinking about what to write and guess what lessons learnt in 2018.

1.It’s okay to be vulnerable

We agree that vulnerability is underrated I can tell you how it’s powerful.

You know of a person who’s always happy no matter what happens? these kinds of people are super annoying reason why, you know at subconscious level we know these people are trying to play as the perfectionist and we all know that perfect people don’t exist.

How many times have you said “I’m fine!” when really deep down all you wanted to do was come clean and admit that everything is not OK.

We are taught that it’s not cool to be vulnerable. It shows weakness and just won’t do.

Instead we must embrace the stiff part of us and pretend that everything is OK. Vulnerability provides inner strength.. what nobody told us is that there is actually a deep inner strength in vulnerability why? because to be vulnerable you have to be honest; you have to be the real you.

At times it may feel like the safer option is to hide your inner feelings but come on,playing pretend doesn’t ever really make you feel that great on the inside; it only leaves you feeling like a fraud.

It’s true that when we learn to accept and grant ourselves a permit to be vulnerable the sooner we free ourselves from the chain of pretence -perfectionism. Try it today.

2.No one owes you anything

I was reading something for school sometime aand I read of how whenever we take group photos the first person you look at is you and if you find out you ain’t looking good you wouldn’t post that picture which is so true BTW and if you look cute you’re gonna post it anyway.

You can give people too much and you expect them to treat you with the same respect, the same amount of love and energy that you pour anything but really no one owes you anything as human beings we were born selfish but that shouldn’t change your character. You’ll possibly meet people with the same energy as yours

3. You’ll not control everything

I’m one person who’d like to be in control but understanding that I can only sustain one thing at a time was really a hell of a tip.

It’s important for you to understand why you want to control. Most people want to control because of fear but really letting go off small things,managing and letting go off your expectations, to finally surrendering to life is major and why couldn’t you consider this? Leave room for surprises huh

4.Prioritize your mental health

I’ve probably told this a lot but anything that takes you away from your sanity then should not be in your life even if it’s hard to let go be it a job, a person, a relationship.

If you go to bed and you’re constantly worrying too much about it and drains your energy literally your sanity. I mean you’re always calling your friend I’m worried about this or that.. I’m not saying you should stop worrying because it’s completely normal to worry.. but as long it takes away your inner peace it’s not worth it.

5.Invest in yourself and your future.

I know you’re wondering how I’m putting up this but it’s not banking entirely on finances.

By this I mean invest in your future.Material things come and go but your knowledge stays with you.

Read books and blogs, become the boss of your money,never stop learning and if you can create multiple income generating activities. Yhaas and yes you absolutely have to work hard because consistency pays.

Just so you liked it follow your ghel.. Happy holidays

    Internship. Make yourself indispensable.

    Hey fine people, if youve been an intern you’ll absolutely know how anxious you were before you reported for your first internship. Comes along with beams of optimism, enlightenment and happiness. They carry the promise of a positive future.

    And then you get there. Quickly, you realize your internship isn’t exactly what you expected it to be. Frankly, it’s kind of disappointing. Reality check, duude, you’re at the bottom of the corporate food chain.

    To add on, more and more colleges requiring internships before graduation, this is a recipe for disaster, or more realistically, a vicious cycle in which college students are forced to take internships that deplete their bank accounts in the hopes of a payoff down the road, which is definitely not a guarantee.
    Most of us, an internship is our first encounter with the real world. It will probably be your first time to spend an entire day wearing a neat bright coloured shirt buttoned up and a pair of sensible shoes(2-inch ankle boots for girls). You imagine eagerly going to work 15 minutes early. You can’t wait to get in there and get a head start on your career.

    Honestly speaking, you’re not going to be able to save the world in your first week. With your name being “Intern” being reminded of your status more often. While you will hopefully be entrusted to do actual work, chances are you will be given a lot of clerical work as well. In case you didn’t know, the real world entails a lot of photocopying, paper filing and tea fetching as some times you’re sent to buy KDFs for your (bosses). It just so happens that some a good bit of that work will fall onto your desk.

    Getting your hands on real work takes a lot of responsibility. As an intern, you haven’t proven yourself of being capable of handling the heavy stuff. You will have to deal with the grunt work as a rite of passage into being a real employee. Ideally what you can do is proof your self worth so that your boss can be convinced to give you more meatier jobs.

    However unfortunate it may be, I’ve been a former intern in 4 unpaid positions. Granted, one was a Audio production assistant in a certain radio, and one is billed as a customer experience surveyor at different branches of a pharmacy , but for the early mornings and purposes, they have been real world experiences that have not paid a dime. So,I met fantastic people and have great references from those positions, as well as awesome experience.

    The one great thing about unpaid internships is that while you get to experience the industry and do real world work, since the company isn’t paying you, there is a large focus on learning on the job, which was extremely useful.
    Before you begin your internship with stars in your eyes, remember that interning is often about paying your crunchy work. So here, this is what I got since I left my 4th internship.

    So you can nip these problems;
    For the case of when you think you’re doing nothing constructive;
    You can ask your boss if there are any projects that he or she is tackling that you can work on. It’s natural to have a lot of free time when you’re an intern. Sure, there is probably a lot of work to do around the office but it’s possible that it’s not work that an intern would be able to do.
    It could also be that your boss has a lot on his or her own plate and has completely overlooked your workload. If there’s no work for you, try to create work for yourself. Chances are there are some stagnant projects on your boss’ to-do list that you can start working on yourself. Or maybe you can ask other members of your team that need some help on their own projects.
    There’s also this chance that you can also propose projects that you can do on your own. These projects can showcase your capabilities so that your boss can trust you with bigger tasks too.

    Two fine people, you have no clear plan or rather you haven’t received enough guidance.
    If you’re confused about how you should accomplish your tasks, always ask. Never be afraid to ask questions! Your boss probably thinks that you already know what to do and that his/her instructions were clear enough. So let your boss know that you need additional guidance for your project. If you’re keen to know about your job performance, ask your boss about giving you evaluations. This will help you learn about your strengths and weaknesses as an employee.
    If you haven’t done it yet, request your boss for some time and talk to your boss about having a training plan for the remainder of your internship. Or at least talk to him/her about the things you want to learn or achieve so that your boss also knows what to teach you and how to guide you. As your internship progresses, progress meetings so that you can both see if you are on track. Always make sure that you communicate with your boss and that you are both on the same page when it comes to your internship.

    And this major one, Your internship doesn’t pay
    Here, the scenario doesn’t apply to everyone. Most internships these days are unpaid. Some interns are lucky enough to get compensation but it’s mostly because the workload is heavier than the usual internship or maybe the work entails a lot of expenses.
    Ideally, you should sort out stipend issues before the start of your internship. If you’re encountering unseen expenses such as transportation costs for running errands or buying materials for projects, you should talk to your boss about getting additional assistance to cover for the expenses.
    The point here is compensation is in experience, not monetary value. Now, I completely stand by internships and the experience they provide. You developed excellent contacts and relationships through the internships and realized they are crucial for entry-level jobs and taking the next step in a professional career.
    However, this brings about the problem; talented students are working for companies that ten years ago, paid employees were doing the same tasks, except now they get slapped with an “Intern Ann” name tag and receive college credit instead of cash.

    So 4, You’re doing mindless work
    First try to do your best with the tasks given to you at work. You have to hustle and prove your worth then hopefully, your boss will trust you enough to give you meatier roles.
    But if all you’re doing is clerical work and you’re not really doing anything valuable or educational, try to talk to your supervisor about it. You want to leave your internship with new insights and skills, so work with your boss on ensuring that you will do relevant work. Volunteer your help with some projects that your team is working on. You can propose to work on a solo project to cap off your internship experience.

    Fifth you’ll experienced this? That you’re not getting any guidance
    As an intern, it’s likely that you don’t know anything at work. But you wouldn’t want to stay that way for theYou get left out of meetings or work discussions
    Being an intern, you’re kind of part of the company, but not really. You will work on things alongside other employees but there are simply some things that you won’t be a part of, such as meetings. Oftentimes, confidential matters are discussed at these meetings and you just don’t have the clearance to know these things. Aside from this, meetings are nebulous by nature and adding more people can further complicate them and drag them out longer.
    While they may not allow you to participate at meetings, you can ask to be a silent observer. Ask if you can come along to a few key meetings just to see how projects are formulated, strategized and implemented. Tell your boss that you just want to get a complete picture of how things work at an office environment.However, make sure you don’t disrupt the proceedings and do what you told them you would do.

    6. Your hours are longer than originally advertised
    If you didn’t discuss work hours with your boss during the initial interview, make sure to bring up the topic as soon as possible. This can be asked with a brief, “What are the hours for this position?” either in person or via email. That said, understand that your hours aren’t necessarily set in stone. One of the best ways to stand out at your internship is to arrive early and stay late, especially when you’re working on a big project.

    If you don’t have a stipend but you find yourself shelling out your personal funds to cover work expenses, ask your boss for a reimbursement. There shouldn’t be a problem with reimbursing these expenses as long as you keep official receipts, so make sure to ask your boss or the finance department how the reimbursement process goes. Your internship is one of the best ways you can prepare for life in the real world. It’s the closest you can get to an actual job without actually taking on the workload of a full-time employee. Make the most of what is given to you and if you encounter any of these internship problems, do what you can to turn these problems into opportunities. Good luck, intern!
    It’s one thing to score your dream internship. It’s quite another thing to have the dream match the reality. During the first few days of summer, you might find that you’re becoming an expert on ordering venti skim lattes instead of gaining the learning experience you had hoped for. Or maybe you were expecting a jam-packed schedule, but your boss doesn’t give you enough work to keep you busy.
    If you’re truly unable to take on more hours, ask your boss if he or she has a few free minutes to discuss your schedule. Explain that you had expected a certain number of hours and are unable to put in more time and let her know why. Offer to let her know if your schedule changes and make sure to follow up if it does.

    7. You’re given more busy work and less “real” work than you anticipated
    Interning isn’t always as exciting as it looked on The Hills. “Interns are often given what amounts to overflow work that the regular staff doesn’t have time to handle. It isn’t the most glamorous, but oftentimes it’s the reality of the deal. Realize that there may be some mundane tasks, work through those tasks quickly, ask for more challenging work and you’re likely to get it!

    It’s important to look at your internship with perspective. You may not be able to write the cover story for the magazine, but you might be able to contribute story research or fact-check the piece. Those tasks aren’t busy work – they’re crucial for the production of the magazine! When you’re consistently receiving real assignments, it’s not so terrible to spend an hour sorting mail or running an errand for the company.

    8. You don’t get along well with your boss right away.You might not be BFFs with your boss, no matter how much you rock as an intern. But a positive relationship with your boss can go a long way towards making your internship into a great experience.
    Some people are not engaging at first, so you have to learn how to read a personality and figure out how to interact with that person however much it’ll take time.
    One way to speed up the process is to figure out the best way to interact with your boss. Does he or she prefer you to ask questions face to face or via email? Does he or she invite you to lunch, or are you expected to eat by yourself or with other interns? Observe these basic details during your first few days in the office for a summer of smooth sailing.

    9.You don’t get along well with the other interns right away
    Don’t stress if you and the other interns don’t hit it off right away. Just like getting to know your boss, this takes time. You’ll likely spend a lot of time with the other interns, including collaborating on the same projects, so it shouldn’t be too tough to get to know them on a professional basis. The next step requires putting yourself out there a bit invite them to lunch! It’s a quick, easy way to get to know them on a personal level, too.
    Take the time to hang out a bit after work or on weekends so you can get to know each other better and find someone with whom you connect. It’s an opportunity to build relationships that may become important down the line.
    Remember, your fellow interns will be vying for the same jobs after graduation and you might even end up working together at some point in the future. Establishing positive relationships with your peers now can only help you down the road.

    Lastly, you’re overwhelmed with work and might not have adequate training
    When your work is too tough, it’s important to let someone know as soon . You’re only setting yourself up for failure if you don’t take steps to catch up! And besides, it’s not uncommon for interns to feel unprepared, as interns replace entry-level positions at many companies.
    Before you bug your boss with every minor question, do your homework. Research your question online, check any manual or guides you were given by the company, and ask other interns if they know how to solve the problem. If it’s a matter of learning a new skill, check out a book on the subject or see if you can find step-by-step guides online. If you’ve done all the things and you’re still lost, it’s time to talk to your boss.

    Don’t hesitate to ask for clarification when you don’t understand something or ask to slow the pace a bit. Oftentimes, interns are afraid to speak up because they believe they will be judged harshly for not being able to keep up or they are afraid they will not appear smart. Sometimes you have to remind your supervisors that this is new territory for you. They are on autopilot a lot of the time. A gentle request for a little more direction often helps.

    Hey loves remember to follow your girl!

    Forced to listen to your guts?

    Long time no blog but yeah finally I’m safe trying to work on new content. Well have you ever had lots of difficulty trying to listen to your guts? Haha wow when your heart’s thoughts are your mind’s rejects. Let’s agree on this we all once or more often get stuck in our thoughts and actions from time to time. The key is not to let it continue any longer than necessary. The sooner you can free your thoughts, the better you will free.

    Sometimes when we try our best to move past our problems but something comes along to block us. What is it trying to tell you about where you are and what you are attempting to do? Perhaps there is something missing that will help you solve the difficulty.

    We’ve all been there. Stuck in the middle of our decision-making mode. Our heart tells us one thing, while our mind tries to keep us safe. Two totally different directions. One feels right, while the other is the most logical option.

    What have you been following in the past? Do your decisions sound right or feel right? Take a look at where you are right now. Your life might be filled with logical and safe decisions. Which is great, but it’s leaving a lot of unused potential free of usage.

    You would love to be free flowing, in love with your decisions and place you’re at in your life. For some reason, you’re not there yet. You’re close but always feel on the fringe.
    You’ve tasted the times in your life when you’ve been fully immersed in your decisions. Engaging with the uncomfortableness of not having a plan, but at least it felt right. If only you could be here more often.

    One of the best ways to understand what may be blocking you is to learn to listen to your heart. I know it may sound a little corny, but most of the time, we are so caught up in what’s going on in our heads that we forget about our emotional selves. And that can cause us to be stopped in our tracks without even knowing it. If your heart isn’t in it, not much is going to happen.

    If this is something that you are new at, a great way to start is by simply placing your hand on your heart. No, it is not sending you a message in codes. But placing your hand on your heart allows you to be more in touch with that wonderful organ that helps you feel your best and is strong enough to overcome even the worst situations you have ever found yourself in. By feeling your heart, you sync your brain with the rhythm of its beat, and you will be able to better understand the messages that the core of your being is sending to your brain.

    Some of these times it takes a little while to really understand what is going on for you, because more often your brain will be sending information to your heart based on your proclivities. The habit of your behaviors may be so much into you that it is hard to tell yourself that you are not feeling what you think you are supposed to feel. Correctly hearing the truth from your heart can help you settle your issues and allow you to enjoy life in ways you never could have imagined.

    So I one of those times that I was caught in the midst and I absolutely had to reach out for my people’s thoughts , so you can guess I got this; This is one of those times where writing down your thoughts and feelings can help. Do they match? If not, which do you wish to follow? By choosing to follow your heart, you are gaining the strength that comes from all the love you’ve ever had. Once you feel it, that love can overcome your problems.

    More often you should understand that if you approach someone with an open heart, he or she will feel it and will most likely return a similar energy to you. That’s how relationships are born, one open heart reaching out and touching another. It’s what we all want, and it is available to you by just being willing to listen to your heart.

    I guess you’ve heard this a lot more times that our time on earth is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be caught in people’s decisions in which you live with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.

    Having confidence in your gut feeling could be a solution to this.Living in tune with your heart can be a totally new concept. Today we’re so wrapped up in making decisions based on countless on the good and bad lists, that we never allow any space for new opportunities or potentials. The notion of living in what causes and effects mechanistic world ruins our every thought.

    We are humans and we love falling back on routine. Our same thoughts and habits pervade our everyday existence. We can either let these thoughts and beliefs, based on our past, direct our lives or we can inject new life into them.The decision is up to us.

    Every other day in the morning you’re faced with decisions. This route or that route to work. Take the new opportunity,or fly out of the country. Most decisions aren’t life changing, but still, add up to our overall life experience. By adding more space and deeper feeling into your decision-making process you bring more possibility into your life. It’s time to start learning how to navigate these new waters.
    All you need to do is balance two aspects of your being, the heart, and mind.

    Hi Loves, can I just say this “please follow my blog “.

    Let’s all handle negativity comfortably.

    From the tips of your nose to the tops of your toes, you are to better looking guy, more talented, kinder, funnier and less likely to go to bed at 9pm with cute pyjamas . Some words are said to others while we need them most.

    Did you ever come home after doing a detox with the best Kate’s organics, cleansed with glasses of smoothies, feeling on top of the world and in your healthy glow, only to have one of your friends kill your joy ride with a negative remark? Did you ever post a picture on Facebook after having several visits for work outs to the flat tummy or a big booty that can land you in multi million deals ahem! or healing yourself in some way, feeling so proud of the work you’ve done, just to have a friend leave a comment that was less than complimentary?

    Did you recently achieve something special, like hitting 500 subscribers on your two month you tube channel or getting a promotion at work and you noticed a particular person in your life made a sideways comment that was actually somewhat derogatory?
    However much you receive 200 genuine and praising compliments for your efforts, you can hang on to that one nasty comment and just feel terrible for days. And feeling bad is not good for your health ! Could that person actually be jealous of you? Or are they just permanently caught in the negative, and never actually happy for you in the way you are happy for their success?
    One of the sad parts about changing your diet and your lifestyle for the better is that some people around you may not be so supportive or happy to see you change. Jealousy is, without a doubt, it’s unpleasant and once it rears its ugly head, it can be hard for it to go away.

    What can you do if you think or believe that your friend, workmate or family member is actually jealous of you? How do you go about with negativity when you feel so positive, happy and healthy? If you want the best for everyone around you. Let’s do these comfortably .I’ve got a few tips respond to a jealous or negative comment?
    For one , don’t take things personally. More often when someone is actively negative, it has absolutely everything to do with them and nothing to do with you . You might actually notice that the person in question makes comments about everyone in a bad way, so no matter what you do or don’t do, you will be a topic of conversation for them.
    Two, to bring back what other people think about you is none of your business ! You hit this world with your successes and you should own your success . Be proud of yourself No one knows how hard you worked and no one has the right to give an opinion about you.
    Hey 3 loves, you never will please everyone. It’s just not possible, so let go of having to make everyone happy. Do your best to be compassionate, loving, genuine and honest but know that sometimes people will still not approve you, even if you are a good person, and that’s okay! People even find reasons to not like Barack Obama , so come on!
    Here another one; Choose not to comment. Take the higher ground with negativity and simply do not acknowledge it. Look at it as a spiritual challenge and an opportunity to grow emotionally. Letting go of the need to reply is truly a remarkable release and you will find so much freedom there.

    Yeah it stops the energy of negativity dead in its trenches. Remember, you cannot have an argument with only one person.

    Think of yourself as as a coconut tree, strong in your form but flexible to move in the wind. You can withstand any storm as long as you stay focused in your super human strength .

    5 loves;Be kind but practice safe distancing. You happen to see a pattern in one person who is continuously hitting you with critic comments, then you should think about whether or not you want to have that person in your life.

    You are precious and your time is precious, so choose who you give your time to wisely. I often think the best thing to do is to be as compassionate and kind as you can but slowly distance yourself from the person, making it clear that you are not available. They will either change their tune and start getting more positive on their own, or they will set their sights to something or someone else.

    Dear boo boo if you find this difficult and in doubt, send them love.If you are absolutely unsure what to do with the negative Ann in your life, then simply send them love

    This is very much important when you’re in the midst of queries of why you think your workmate, friend or family member is full of negativity. Close your eyes, and take a long deep breath.

    Form a picture of extremely large rays of love and light wrapping itself around Ann filling her with divine unconditional love . Watch and wait what happens. You will be amazed to see the change . Sometimes it’s even instant!

    Hi loves please don’t forget to follow my blog. Sending you lots of love and hugs your way on my birthday week.